Personal Growth Always Begins With Admitting There's a Problem
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How I got started on my personal growth journey and how I hope it can benefit you!
Everyone’s personal growth story is a little different but I imagine they are all a bit like a roller coaster. Can you relate?
8 years ago I met my now husband while working at a restaurant together. While we weren’t ready to date each other at first, it took years of friendship before we realized we might actually like each other.
But, even then, we were both train wrecks. We had just hit a point where the pain of staying the same was greater than the pain of change. And luckily we were there to support one another on that journey.
Personal growth always starts with admitting where there is a problem.
While my husband are now in recovery, at the beginning of our friendship and subsequent relationship we were not. And if it weren’t for those years of struggle I don’t think that we would be as blessed as we are now.
Emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually we were completely out of sync with ourselves, the universe, life. We were both addicts. Some people can go out and have one or two, but as they say, “one is too many, a thousand is never enough.” I tended towards the thousand side of things than the one, as did my husband.
THEN I GOT FIRED!
It wasn’t the most typical way of things, but then again it was. But it was the spark that brought us to where we are today.
We had been friends for 2 years at that point and we both knew that we wouldn’t be able to stay away from each other. So we didn’t.
After a year of dating and many speed bumps, we hit the road. We packed up the car and left for three months to travel the U.S. I credit that trip to our personal growth success today more than anything else.
WE’RE SOBER NOW!
Our trip was the most exciting, exhausting, difficult, rewarding, crazy thing I’ve ever done in my life. And I can’t wait to do it again. We got home and got ‘real’ jobs, we got an apartment together, things should have been ‘perfect’.
But we were still miserable. Personal Growth can be tough.
Not with each other necessarily, but something had to change. Personal growth was why I took the job. But my job was a miserable excuse for a ‘real’ job. I got paid a barely livable wage as a Food and Beverage Manager at a big name hotel. I was expected to be there days, nights, weekends, sixty plus hour weeks and on-call 24/7. My husband was working three jobs. Going straight from his overnight shift at one job to his morning shift at the other.
We had gotten to a point in our personal growth that we wanted a family.
We genuinely were ready and wanted children and we knew we would do what it took to make things happen. I kept applying to jobs like crazy. Looking for babysitting jobs that would be a smoother transition for myself and my son after his arrival. My husband got a job as an electricians assistant. Time flew by, I went on maternity (at the same awful job). And before we knew it our amazing son was here.
I was so lucky to have the time at home with my son that I did. But we would be working for free to put our son in daycare. So my husband stayed home. I went back to work, we got married, we conceived again, we kept hustling.
I MADE TOO MUCH MONEY.
That’s what they told me when they let me go. Here we are, a 6 month old and already 2 months along with the next one, he’s out of work and now so am I..
I kept applying, I’ve gotten maybe 3 interviews, I’ve applied to 200+ jobs, I’ve applied to all types of things.
I got involved in a direct sales company.
That’s how you find me here today. When a door doesn’t open, maybe it’s not your door. I believe that things happen for a reason. You gotta keep on keeping on, reinvent yourself, learn more, try more, DON’T GIVE UP. Personal growth doesn’t happen overnight or to those not seeking it.
And then the pandemic hit. Oh my word, it was as if the world kept throwing curve balls at us and we tried to keep dodging them. But 3 weeks into the pandemic and I had our daughter and we were able to blissfully enjoy our babies for a while.
Personal growth isn’t that bad things don’t happen it’s that you can handle them better.
Before we were miserable and broken people, and anything that happened could set us off. It was like being on the edge of a cliff constantly and you might fall at any moment.
Now, we have a solid foundation of stress management, self-care activities, and hobbies that keep us far from the edge. I hope that you do too!
I tried to fit in a box for most of my life and it always felt awkward and uncomfortable. Personal growth can feel like that too.
Live life out loud. Dare to be different. You don’t always have to have a “plan”. Sometimes the plan finds you. Sometimes you have to keep exploring different things.
JUST DON’T GIVE UP.
If I had given up before I got here I would never have known such immense happiness. My life is finally MINE. I may be split between two kids, a husband and extended family but it is the most wonderful feeling in the world because it is UP TO ME. Personal growth can feel like that, like finally living your life not someone else’s.
Here’s to your best life!